Self-Care

HOW I STAY MOTIVATED WHEN THINGS GET STICKY

I turned 40 today. At the beginning of the week, I was not feeling too good about this whole new decade, as this is not a small number. I had mixed emotions. I was sad that I was not going to be home to celebrate it. That Shannon was going to be away too. How the hell did 40 happen? What happens next? What should I be feeling? GAH...Like WTF! When I woke up on Thursday before heading to CA for Expo West with the NuttZo team, I had Shannon holding me while he was still asleep...I could hear Lucy snoring by the side of our bed...I changed my attitude. My life is pretty amazing!

I wanted to write something uplifting in this blog post, because well there is a lot going on and I get this question a lot, so thinking about what keeps me motivated when things are sticky was a friendly reminder to myself that I am so GRATEFUL and HAPPY for those around me, my health, my body, and that I am able to do what I do. It’s pretty freaking awesome.

And even when life does get sticky and I need a little extra motivation or push, this is what I like to do…

HOW I STAY MOTIVATED WHEN THINGS GET STICKY

SWEAT IT OUT - Are you really surprised by this answer? Y’all know how much my training means to me both physically and mentally, so it is no surprise that when things get sticky I gravitate towards intense workouts. I want to feel the sweat dripping off my body. I want to feel my muscles burning. I want to be challenged. I want to get my ass kicked. This is what I want and this is what works for me.

I have always been extremely motivated when it comes to training. Having been a competitive athlete most of my life, it comes naturally to me. The benefits of training make me a better person every day and it is why I make the time to do it on a daily basis. I am grateful for this body and what it can do and what I put it through. But when I am not feeling motivated, I am in a funk, or life is just throwing me some curveballs, I sometimes need a little extra push.

So who is able to do this for me? Sarah Frick owner of The Works! YES...this woman is a badass and I am so grateful to have her as a friend and a teacher. Every single time I step on that mat for her well-known class “THE WORKS” she brings it and I swear that since we got back from Tulum, she is bringing it all to that space. The combo of the meditation...the focusing on the breath...the plyometrics...the vinyasa flow...the process of learning to let that SHIT GO in those 60 minutes is a game changer. I love this studio, the community, and the challenges that it offers me. I have become a stronger person on and off the mat because of Sarah and because of the classes she offers.

If you are having a hard time getting motivated physically here are a few ways to stay accountable:

  • Reach out to one of your friends, who you consider a workout buddy and tell them you need some help to get back into your routine;

  • Sign up for a race! I love to do this, especially when I am in a rut. It helps me stay on track with my training. It gives me a goal to look forward to and I love having a schedule that tells me what to do each day. I always print it out the old school way and tape it to the fridge and cross each day off with a marker. Daily goals to a bigger GOAL!

  • Try a new class! There are so many different kind of fitness classes to take these days, so find what works for YOU. What makes you feel good? What challenges you? Plus, it is also a way to just be more social and be around like-minded people and to try new things in your city. Best part about all of these classes is that someone is always offering a deal, so grab it while you can.

HOW I STAY MOTIVATED WHEN THINGS GET STICKY

LEAN ON SHANNON AND MY FRIENDS - This is something that has taken me awhile to do! I used to keep shit in and try to fix it on my own, but having started dating Shannon almost two years and finally falling in love with a place that I can call home, I have opened myself up to much more. And by opening myself up, I have allowed myself to lean on him and my friends for help when things get a little sticky in my world.

Shannon gets me! We have this special bond that reminds me of the one I had with my father. We can spend hours together and just kind of know what the other is thinking. We don’t need to be talking non-stop to each other and I love this. It works. He knows when I am in a funk and he’s there for me. He keeps me laughing. He asks me what I need. He holds me. He also just gives it to me in black and white. I have a tendency to overthink things and let my emotions get in the way, so his no bull shit mentality motivates me to keep going.

When I lean on my girlfriends, it is different, but that is what friends are for and why I am so grateful for them. The friends who listen to your non-stop texts that are paragraphs long. The friends that check in on your daily. The friends who want to take you out and just make sure you let loose and enjoy life. I know that I repeat myself, but this year has taught me a lot and it’s only March. I have let go of a lot of SHIT (yes...this word is coming up a lot). I have surrounded myself with a group of friends who inspire me, challenge me, and help me when I need help. Having only been in Charleston for almost one year, I can say that the group I am with is pretty amazing! And I cannot forget my pen-pal friends who I have met through social media too. It’s one of my favorite things about the kookie social media world and who it has allowed me to connect with…a lot of badass women.

HOW I STAY MOTIVATED WHEN THINGS GET STICKY

PRACTICE SELF-CARE - Self-Care is also a BIG thing for me this year. You have to take care of YOU inside and out. YOU are the one in charge of it all and when you aren’t taking care of yourself, how can you take care of others. It seems like a simple thing, but it is something that so many of us neglect. Self-Care can be little or big things...It is something that is going to make YOU happy and make YOU feel good about yourself.

How do I practice SELF-CARE:

  • Nothing is better than a manicure/pedicure...Am I right?

  • Flowers...I always like to have at least two bouquets from TJ’s in my condo. They make me happy and I’ve also added a lot more plants and succulents too.

  • FOOD - Yes food is self-care...Treat yourself to something delicious, just because you haven’t done it in a while. My go-to is always pizza or a big ass steak and fries...and don’t forget the wine!

  • Travel - I have taken some big trips this year. The Bahamas for a basketball tournament. A girls trip to Wine Country. A yoga retreat to Tulum, Mexico, and there are probably some others later down the road, but why not?!?! Life is short. I work hard. I want to have fun, explore, travel, and get away once in a while. And I am grateful that I can do that!

HOW I STAY MOTIVATED WHEN THINGS GET STICKY

I am truly blessed, so here’s to 40 and to another year of who knows what, but I do know that at this moment, I am happy, I am in love, I am motivated and will stay motivated even when life does get a little sticky. Because, sometimes we need sticky. Sticky is hard and messy at times, but it can also be a motivator to help us work harder, face our fears, try new things, and also remind us of how grateful we are. xoxo

How do YOU stay motivated when things get sticky?

How do YOU practice self-care?






BE KIND TO YOURSELF

Raise your hand if December is kicking you ass?!?!?! It has been one hell of a month and I am SO READY for Christmas. I am READY to disconnect. I am READY to be present with family and friends. I am READY to live in the moment and just BREATHE, EAT, DRINK, and, of course, BE MERRY! It is kind of funny and kind of annoying how we go into the holidays with all the right intentions, but somehow life happens and it still exhausts us and leaves us feeling run down. When you are an entrepreneur and you are dating an entrepreneur, this time of year is just flat out NUTS.

BE KIND TO YOURSELF

Shannon and I have been working like crazy and we are both at that point where time away from Charleston is happening at exactly the right time. We both have been plowing through and just getting it done, because that is what we do. But eventually it catches up with you, so it’s time to slow it down...to reconnect...to nourish.

I had no intentions of writing a blog post this week, but when I received an email from a good friend yesterday and could sense her stress and emotions, I had the inspiration to write about how we need to be kind to ourselves during this time of year. This is a reminder to myself and to all of you, that YES it is totally normal to be all out of sorts during this time of year, but let’s try to reel it in and practice some self-care and remember to SLOW DOWN. So how do we do it? How do I do it?

DISCONNECT - Thankfully I have been practicing this more and more and will continue practicing it through the New Year! Disconnecting to me is like taking days off from working out. I don’t necessarily like to do it, but it’s a must for my physical and mental well-being. After taking a few days off, I come back stronger, more focused, and inspired to dive into my projects with clarity.

BE KIND TO YOURSELF

But the most important reason for disconnecting not only during this time of year, but on a regular basis is to BE PRESENT! It’s hard to enjoy life if you are constantly scrolling. Make it a goal between now and Christmas to put the phone away and not check your accounts for two days. GASP...I dare you!

SWEAT IT OUT - Obviously you knew that this would be in the list! Sweating makes me happy and it makes me feel good, so if this helps you get through the ups and downs of the holiday season, just do it. I’m looking to tackle some long runs while away. No weights, gyms, or studios. I just want to soak up the sunshine and sweat in the beautiful outdoors.

BE KIND TO YOURSELF

If you are going to be dealing with bitter cold temperatures, why not tackle this oldie, but goodie “At-Home Workout”? No equipment required and it gets the job done, so you can do on your merry way and go to that holiday party feeling like the badass that you are...BOOM!

NOURISH YOUR BELLY and YOUR SOUL - Enjoy yourself...Enjoy the parties...Enjoy the food...You don’t have to do it all. I am going to repeat that...YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ALL!  Do what serves you and what is going to bring you happiness at the end of the day. When you feel like you are being pulled from all ends this time of year, take some time to be selfish and take care of YOU!

For me, this could be as simple as a mani/pedi...Or making a loaded plate of nachos with all the goods...Taking Lucy to the beach and leaving my phone in the car...Catching up on all my reality shows and just letting the couch soak me up...Planning a date night with Shannon at one of our favorite restaurants (I’m going to do this as soon as this post goes live).

Whatever makes YOU happy, just do it! You deserve to love yourself as much as you love others!

LEAN ON THE ONES YOU LOVE - This is a MUST in my opinion...That’s what loved ones and friends are for. They are in your life for a reason. They get you. They get your weirdness. They support you through the pretty and not so pretty times. They are your TRIBE!

Don’t hold all that shit in. In the past, I used to hold it all in, but now I am an open book. This has come from working on myself, which I am still doing by the way, because shit, I have my own issues, but I couldn’t do it without my Life Coach, my friends, and, of course, Shannon.

I am grateful for my tribe. It keeps growing and they keep inspiring me and helping me and just being there for me whenever I need them. People have come into my life for a reason and each one of my friends near and far are there to help me in certain aspects of my life. I find this unbelievably cool and comforting.

And because I cannot help myself, I have to brag about Shannon, because he is my rock. He sees it ALL. He has seen me at my worst and my best moments. He stands by me. He supports me. He makes me feel safe. He keeps it REAL. We are by no means a “perfect couple” and that is okay. I am just happy that I can lean on him physically and emotionally and know that he has got my back and I will always have his. And I promise in 2019, to share more about US, and who this Wisconsin man is.

BE KIND TO YOURSELF

Merry Christmas you AMAZING humans! So grateful for YOU and this space where I can write, inspire, and just BE! xoxo

TAKE A MOMENT AND THEN KEEP TRUCKING

Some weeks I feel invincible, strong, fearless, and determined...Some weeks I feel like I just cannot stay afloat...Nothing seems to go as planned...I am exhausted...I am cranky...I am definitely not fun to be around. That was last week. It kicked my ass. I am the first to admit when I do not have my shit together. I acknowledge it. I have that moment. I pick myself back up. I lean on Shannon. I practice self-care and then I keep on trucking. 

My job is a roller coaster. Social Media is a BEAST and some weeks it can just wear me down. This is life. Life has speed bumps. And when we hit those speed bumps we have two choices. We either let the stress and negativity take over or we put on those "Positive Patty Pants" on and YES, we just keep trucking. As I get older and somewhat wiser and definitely a little more stubborn, I won't give in to the negativity. I have learned what works for me to get out of that place and back up on my feet. Because as I always say, when we look at the bigger picture...Life is really good. Here are a few of my "go-to's" for getting myself back up and moving forward - 

Take A Moment

SWEAT IT OUT - Whenever I feel stressed, overwhelmed, frustrated, angry, sad, or need to take some time away from work, relationships, and life, sweating it out is always my favorite way to get my shit back together and start fresh. And usually, that type of sweat session involves my yoga mat and showing up to Sarah’s “The WORKS” class.

This class challenges me physically and mentally. It pushes me...It inspires me...It helps me feel grounded and grateful. I went to 3 “The WORKS” classes last week 3 days in a row and it was exactly what I needed. I was sore as heck and really freaking tired, but I needed someone to tell me to do those dreaded Vinyasa burpees and squat jumps. I needed Sarah to push me. I needed that support system and it worked.

I love my yoga community and I cannot brag enough about Sarah and how she has helped me on and off the mat with my yoga practice, building my strength and endurance, but also being a friend. Yoga is not just about stretching, building strength, and sweating, as amazing as to how this makes me feel. It is also a  wonderful reminder that we have to love ourselves inside and out. That we all have moments, struggles, and breaking points. We just have to take some time to acknowledge this, but also remember to keep moving forward, because life is good and when you look around and remember what you have it is REALLY good.

NOURISH YOUR BODY - Feed your body what it wants and ENJOY it! When I am having one of those weeks, where I feel like I have no control over my workload and life, food USED to be that one thing where I felt like I did have some sort of control. This was not a good thing. Trust me, it is not healthy mentally, physically, and nutritionally. Controlling your food intake is exhausting and takes up a lot of energy. Energy that could be going to someplace else. Food control during stressful moments does not solve anything. It can actually make things worse. Honor your body. Give it what it needs. This moment and this week will pass, so nourish your body with the foods that it is craving and it will all balance out in the end.

Nourish Your Body

We have to remember that our bodies are always changing and craving different things each week. Some weeks I just want to eat BIG salad bowls and smoothies...Some weeks I just want waffles and thick slices of bacon and more bacon. You have to honor these cravings and give your body what it wants. How cool is it that this happens? Life would be so boring if we ate the same thing every day. There have been nights where I just wanted to eat ice cream and cookies. And guess what I ate just that and it tasted and felt awesome. I fulfilled that craving and then moved on. Yes, it has taken me time to figure this out, but I can honestly say that I am so much more aware of these moments and it feels good to not have to worry about controlling the food.  

Nourish Your Body

DISCONNECT - JUST DO EXACTLY THAT! Stop scrolling, liking, commenting, emailing, and even turn your phone on silent. It is an amazing feeling. This past weekend we went to the RBC Heritage Cup in Hilton Head and it was a huge relief that I had to keep my phone on silent. It felt AWESOME. I was more present with our friends, with Shannon, and soaked up that beautiful sunshine, food, cocktails, and the experience.

I needed the weekend to disconnect, because it is so easy to burnout, especially when you are managing multiple accounts, and always trying to stay on top of the comments, mentions, and tags. I was starting to go bat crazy. So I 100% needed to just take that time to breathe, recharge, press restart, and just live life. Thank goodness my friend took all of our pictures, because by the middle of the day I didn’t even bother checking my phone. WAHOO!!!

DISCONNECT

During the hustle and bustle of the work week, I obviously cannot disconnect like that, which is fine, as this is my job, my livelihood, and it is what pays the bills. To stay somewhat sane on a daily basis, I always take Lucy for our afternoon walk and leave my phone behind and I am “trying” to shut it ALL down around 9:00 PM. It is hard because I love what I do and I get excited to see the growth, the interaction, and the excitement for the brands I represent, but I always need to remember, SLOW DOWN and turn it off!

HAVE THAT FLIPPING MOMENT - We are all allowed to have “that moment”. Whether it is crying, screaming, or just being silent, give yourself permission to feel all the feels. It is okay to break down. It is called being human. Once you get all that crap out, put those “Positive Patty Pants” on and just keep on trucking.

What self-care tips do you practice when life is just a HOT MESS?

Friday Friendly Reminders

And we meet again and we meet on the BEST day of the week! I am liking this day of the week to post. It is a nice time to reflect on the past week, to talk about what happened, and to slowly start to unwind and enjoy the weekend. Today is a round up of friendly reminders for all of us to work on. I am looking forward to tackling them all. Aggressive...maybe...but totally worth it! Have a fabulous weekend and see y'all next week! xoxo

Treat Yourself

Do you make sure to spoil yourself every week? Maybe it is retail therapy, a manicure/pedicure, sweet treats, or a trip, I believe it is definitely a must that you treat yourself to something that makes you HAPPY! You work hard and not allowing yourself to enjoy that hard work, well is just not fun. It can be a simple treat or an elaborate treat, whatever it is, go for it. For me, it is a simple one, but something my body has been craving. A bowl of ice cream with peanut M&M's twice a week and I am a happy lady. 

Friday Friendly Reminder

DISCONNECT

JUST DO IT!!! Whether it is for the entire weekend or 2 hours, put away your devices and just be in the moment. Enjoy the time away from staring at your phone and make eye contact with those around you...Be bored for a few minutes...Pick up a good book and read...And give those thumbs a little break. 

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NEVER GIVE UP

Do you know how many times I have heard NO? A LOT and yet I keep on trucking because giving up is not an option whether it comes to my personal or professional life. I have applied to so many jobs, campaigns, and emailed brands and people that I want to work with. I either hear a NO or no response. And the same goes with dating. I put myself out there and swipe to the right a heck of a lot more than I used to. And yes you guessed it...I hear a lot of crickets. No pity party here. I am just reminding all of you and myself of course, that we all hit a lot of speed bumps in life. "Adulting" is hard. Hearing "NO" day in a day out is hard.  

Daily Reminder to: Keep your head up...stay strong...believe...give it 100%...NEVER GIVE UP!

Get OUTSIDE

We experienced warm weather this week and it was FABULOUS! I really hope that you took some time to get out there and soak up that Vitamin D. When you have been cooped up all winter, there is no better feeling for me than to put on my shorts and get outside for a long run and actually start sweating because it is so warm. WINNING! Each day this week, I made sure to take the pups for a walk and I know that they enjoyed the weather too. Disconnect and opt to get outside to soak up that fresh air. Spring is COMING! 

LOVE Yourself With These Self-Care Tips  

This past winter I have talked a lot about self-care. I believe it is necessary for us to be selfish and to take care of ourselves in whatever ways make us feel our best inside and out. When you fell happy and healthy, it shows and you radiate your beauty, power, and confidence to the universe. And that energy is CONTAGIOUS! Read a few of my self-care tips in this month's  Core Power post: HERE

Friday Friendly Reminders

How are you practicing self-care this month?

Did you get OUTSIDE this week?

Slowing Down and Practicing Self-Care

I am doing a lot of things this week, that I NEVER thought I would or could do! With the transition into Spring, I have noticed that my body was physically exhausted. I felt sore after almost every workout; dreading my workouts; tired all the time. My mind and thoughts could not slow down. My belly was feeling bloated...I was too focused on the food, but at the same time not even really enjoying it. I was not even looking forward to my cup of coffee or my heaping spoonful of nut butter...WHAT??? I had hit a wall, but also had come to a BIG realization. I needed to SLOW DOWN! The infamous Lindsay Cotter has been telling me this for months, but just like everything else in life, sometimes we need to realize that ourselves. 

Slowing Down and Practicing Self-Care

In the past, I would have just pushed through these issues, but I am older, wiser, and more in tuned with my body and listening to what it needs. I also truly believe that things happen for a reason. I started texting my Life Coach that I needed to rest. I needed to detox. I was craving a break and wanted something to make me feel better...refreshed...energized...healthier and stronger. She told me to listen to her latest podcast on "Gratitude and Manifestation". After those 60 minutes, I knew what I needed to do. I needed to SLOW DOWN...To detox emotionally, physically, mentally...To get rid of the drama...To notice old patterns and habits that do not serve me...To acknowledge that when pressure shows up it is a gift! 

So when my good friend had mentioned that she and her husband were going to start their Spring Cleanse this week, I was intrigued. Very intrigued...So intrigued that I decided I was in! I cannot believe I agreed to do this because for years I have always said I will never to a cleanse...blah...blah...blah. Never say never...

This blog post is not about what the cleanse entails, it is about why I chose to do this...How I FELT during the cleanse and how I FELT after a week of fully detoxifying. If you want to learn more about the one I followed, you can go here.

I am not going to lie...It is hard! 

  • No coffee in the morning (I was drinking 2-3 cups) The first day I had headaches...Ouch! But each day gets better and easier and I have noticed that I have great energy when I awake!
  • I am tired (especially in the early evening) and the grey, cold, and rainy days are not helping the situation at ALL! The waves of tiredness come and go, but I am okay with that, because I am resting and healing.
  • Spoonfuls of ghee every morning...interesting, but I understand why! Thank you, Farm To Gold for supplying me with yours. 
  • My body has been forced to slow down and it feels so good. My physical activity only involves gentle yoga at Dharma Yoga Nantucket and easy walks with Lucy. It has been relaxing to not worry about what form of torture I was going to endure at the gym. Yes, that was how I was viewing my workouts. So this feels SO GOOD!
  • The food I eat is BORING, but I know it is serving a purpose. Thank goodness for all the Cinnamon, Turmeric, and Cumin from Simply Organic Foods!  BUT, I can already feel a change. I am not thinking about food like I used to. My cravings and taste buds are changing. I am eating to eat because it is fuel. It is simple. It is necessary. I can feel the changes in my gut, and it is good!
  • I am focusing on other things besides my workouts and food! I am taking better care of me. Resting, nourishing, listening, and yes slowing down! 
  • By letting my body rest, it is under less stress. I am not waking at 5:30 AM...On Wednesday I slept until 7:15 AM and it felt AWESOME! 

I am glad that I am not doing this alone, that I have my friends support to bitch and moan when necessary and to eat our boring meals together. But in all honesty, this cleanse is doing what it is supposed to do and it is WHY I chose to do it. Yes, I have my moments of doubt and wonder why the hell I agreed to this...But everything serves a purpose and I know that this one is serving ME!

Slowing Down And Practicing Self Care

I am excited to share with you how I felt after this is done...Whether it was truly worth it...What were the negative and positives. I wanted to put together other posts this week, but I just did not have the energy to write about food and working out. So this is what has been going on this week and only a few more days left. It is going to be an interesting journey! XOXO

How are you practicing self-care this week?

Have you ever done a cleanse?