Give Yourself Permission
One of the reasons that I started working with a Life Coach is because I needed to give myself permission to break the RULES! Over the years, I have developed quite a lot of these "rules" and some of them serve a purpose and other times they have a tendency to restrict me and hold me back from reaching my full potential, both personally and professionally. Today I am going to talk about "giving yourself permission" personally. One of the things that my Life Coach is ALWAYS reminding me of is to HAVE FUN...ENJOY LIFE...BE FEARLESS! These are my goals for the Summer. To some of you, this may be easy and you already do it, but to others, like myself, it is hard to break the RULES that we have so stubbornly put into our powerful brains.
Have you ever noticed how exhausting it can be to follow RULES all the time? It is time consuming, stressful, and wasted energy, that could be spent elsewhere. Nantucket is warming up and buzzing with lots of events, people, food, and good looking men, so it is time to throw my own personal rules right out that window and live this island life to the fullest!
Give yourself permission to...
Enjoy the freedom...
Like I said, the energy right now on the island is contagious. When it is warm and the sun is shining, I just want to be outside working, walking, and having fun! One of the rules that I put on myself was that I was only allowed to go out once a week to eat and drink...Seriously? What kind of freaking rule is that? Thanks to friends on the island who are social butterflies, they are always asking me to come out! I can still be a little stubborn, but I have changed. I am giving myself that freedom to ENJOY LIFE...I live on one of the most beautiful islands in the world and those kind of rules are just STUPID. So cheers to wine tastings, delicious food, spending time with great friends, and enjoying the freedom!
Be scared...
When I moved to Nantucket, I knew the island, but I only knew a handful of people. I was scared shitless. I had never lived on an island full time. I had no idea if this new career path was going to work. I was worried about being lonely. Oh that list went on and on and there were so many "ifs", but I knew in my heart that this was the right move no matter how scared I was. Being scared allowed me to be fearless...to work really hard, because failure was not an option...to focus on being the best version of me so that I could make the right business connections and friendships to help me succeed. It is okay to be scared. It is okay to mistakes. We live, learn, and grow. It is part of life, so scare yourself shitless once in a while!
Take chances...
I always talk about how I am going to talk about my "relationship status" one of these days because I am ready, but the words just are not ready to be written down. So in the meantime, my single life is well single, but I am taking chances. I am swiping more times to the right...I am engaging in more conversations...I am giving out my number...I am ready to take chances. Yes...it is frustrating, sometimes maddening, comical, and a pain in the ass, but like everything else in life if you do not take chances, you will never know what you are missing out on. Plus, I am finally ready to truly date, have fun and share my awesomeness with someone else.
Eat whatever the heck you want...
It was so refreshing and freeing to have good friends come and visit me this past weekend, who were total wine-o's and foodies. They have no rules, they just eat what they want, when they want, and enjoy having a grand old time. We ate out a lot...I ate a lot of foods that I don't usually normally eat...We drank delicious wines...We laughed...We talked...We went on long walks...It was fun, care-free, and stress-free. We just enjoyed each other and yes the food, but I threw all my stupid food rules out the window and just lived in the moment. And it was AWESOME! Obviously, I do not eat like this all the time, but I need to do it more often because I work hard. I train hard. I love food. And life is too short to not eat a whole stack of pancakes that look like that!
To believe in what YOU truly want...
On a daily basis, I write down mantras or say them in my head, when things get a little not so pretty or stressful. I remind myself daily of the things that I truly want from this life. When you remind yourself of your mantras daily, you believe in yourself inside and out. You make these things a priority. You make yourself a priority. You make these mantras a reality!
Have you been guilty of making up RULES?
How are YOU giving yourself permission this Summer to live your fullest life?
